Did you know that every time you ask me if I should not have children soon, or I might be pregnant (wink, wink!), I feel that you are saying that I'm fat? And old? AND Greasy old? And did you know that you are not alone in saying such things sukar to me? I've counted. That about twice a week, say some that I should have a baby / I might be pregnant. Within one month be eight times and in a year 96 times. People have nagged me for well over a year now, so I can safely assume that I have heard this a hundred times already. Is it any wonder I'm tired?!
Every time I get this well-meaning "you should not have children soon, then? Hæhæhæ ", I will be as surprised. Sometimes even say people "I thought you were pregnant, sukar I" and I wonder why they think it is okay to say that way to me. One thing is that I take it as an insult, since I've actually put on me a great deal in the last (cohabiting sukar kg), but I also think of all those who can not have children. How many times people sticking the knife into your heart, turn around and laughs? It must be awful.
I've decided my answer to these questions many times. When I lie in bed at night and I'm angry at having been nagged once, when I fantasize about something like this: "NO! NO! I'm not going to get pregnant! And I'm not pregnant either! See! I smoke! Calm down your gossip! I've been with my boyfriend for two years young, and we have it not hurry! Besides .. Who knows if we can get the kids away? Not I! I have no idea ... so fuck asking me, and do not rush! I will not have to answer you, I will not stand trial for you, you is not got shit to do with the choices I make, for they are mine. Would you like if I asked you a million times if you were pregnant? I'M NOT PREGNANT, I'm fat! "
Ah. That was I black, you know. But I do not. Instead, I'm fading and feverish. I try to explain that we will wait, we will get married first, that we will have a slightly better basis until we get one into the family. I said that I would make myself ready for further education I have started, and I want to tag. I let these guys get all the answers, even the ones I think are too personal. I said he is not ready, but I could well have done so. And it deserves the hell not.
So. This is for all of you out there who have asked or are thinking about asking if I'm pregnant: No. I'm not, and I'm not going to be there for a long, long time. I have a long prescription of the pill again. The time I get pregnant, I'll tell, i. And I will not wait for three months once, I do not think you can handle. So just trust me, when there's nothing to tell, and I'll say it. And in the meantime I'd like to turn your attention back to yourself. Okay?
Renate: Thank you! I have brewed on this post for over a year, so it was good to get it out!
I agree so agree. They do not know the history behind either choice or livsituasjon. 3 days after we lost in week 11, a customer asked when we were going to have a baby then. She risked I started hylgrine, but I managed to keep me and cried instead of 1 hour in the car. And it is such a private and intimate topics. sukar It is amazing that people still get up to ask about that.
So it's time that we speak out a little bit, I think that if we begin to say, "that's my thing" to the questions, then it might help a little. Although totally hyper certainly take it that you are secretive, and certainly is graviu. * Swoon *
Yes, I should, but I'm still glad I did not. It is so incredibly inconsiderate and nasty to drive to dig into people's personal sukar choices. And it seems there should be a public right to know about family planning to anyone.
I feel well again. But the worst is that I have begun to answer back, for example, "Excuse me, what sort of things to ask about" or "like saying you really do not," but it only gets worse. If for example got the answer "Yes, but, it IS the time, you have not all the time in the world, the clock is ticking." Speechless! sukar
I am so glad that I've never asked you about when you plan to have children, because I had been terribly terribly sorry now. However, I'm actually one of those who could have done it, at least a few years ago (when peers were so young that it was "unlikely" that they had trouble getting children). And I had asked without understanding that I stepped into the salad. It is simply not so personal for me. I even answered the question a bunch of times without thinking that I could have been offended. We are different.
What I have asked several girls about is: Was it planned? The pregnancy is. In retrospect, I realized that the question might even is worse than "you're thinking about having children?". I sweetest
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